Chapter 20: Why I’m scared of growing old

It’s my birthday today and I’ve decided to write about one of greatest fears.

When I realized that I was turning 20, believe it or not, the first thing that came to my head is “oh shit, I’m going to be 30 in the next ten years” and that was like a huge reality check for me.

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I know I’m not the only one feeling this way. I researched on this and it turns out a lot of people actually fear growing old. They all have their reasons. Some fear growing up because they lose their youths, they get lots of responsibilities, they feel they haven’t achieved anything and so on.

For me, I’m scared that I haven’t achieved anything. I fear that people will start expecting me to act all matured. Scared that between now and the next 10 years, I would have to get married. I’m scared that I might not get to have a job I really like and a whole lots more that I’ve been thinking about.

In Nigeria, growing up isn’t easy. People start to expect a lot of things from you, for example: for a female, getting married around your twenties and for a male, starting to earn money. To me all these are a lot. I mean people expect you to start acting all matured at a certain age, that’s a lot.

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I’m grateful to be here today. I’m thankful for the things I have in life. It’s not like I don’t want to grow up, I’m scared of the upcoming challenges you come across as you age.

If you also feel this way, I promise you’re not the only one. I think the thing that might help a lot more is reading about it. The fear of growing old is known GERASCOPHOBIA. Some ways which you can use to get over this, which I’m also practicing, are;

  1. Learning to accept the fact that we will all grow old. There’s no two ways about that.
  2. Try making a difference. Do whatever you whenever you want before it’s too late.
  3. Always remember that with age comes wisdom.

I really hope these work for you as much as they are helping me or more than. I’ll talk to you soon in my next blog post.


March 27, 2021 at 7:55 am

Its OK to have certain expectations of yourself as u grow older. Have targets set goals set deadlines maybe, if u don’t meet them extend d deadline, change d goals even, as much as u want. BUT always have it at d back of ur mind, that people don’t matter enough to let their expectations or opinion of u decide or determine hw you live ur life. Live for you.

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