Friendships are awesome. Having people you can share things with it. Experiences, mistakes and the like. The feeling of being in a gang. Having a squad. Having people to call your “ride or dies”. Having people that make things memorable.
But are you in the right friends group if they make you feel unwanted? Are you in the right friends group if they don’t listen to you? What if you always feel like an outsider whenever you’re with them?
Are you in the right friends group when they make fun of you in front of other people? Do you really have friends when they call only when they need something from you?
There comes a time when you just have to question yourself about your friends. Like are you happy with them? I’ve had my fair share with the whole “friend group” stuff. “You claim you have friends but why do you always feel lonely?” “You say you have friends but they exclude you from things with mutual friends” “why do they call you when they need something from you?” Those are some of the questions I mostly ask myself.
Friendships have a huge impact on your mental health and the kind of friends you have improves or wrecks your mental state. Friends are meant to provide comfort and joy. To prevent loneliness.
I had an accident sometime around June this year and it made me really think about those who I call my friends. I realized that out of the few people I call my friends, just 2% of them were my actual friends. It wasn’t easy to accept but I just had to. I was tired and done with the whole facade. To cut the story short, I no longer put energy into my friendship with those “friends.” I got tired of always giving energy and not receiving it back. I felt better knowing that the problem wasn’t with me but with them. I started distancing myself from them. I now know where I stand with them.
What do you do when you realize you aren’t in the right friends group or don’t have the type of friends you want? I’d suggest you firstly talk it out. It might be confrontational but what’s the worst that could happen, they’d unfriend you? Talking it out would be the best because no one is perfect and they might not know they’ve been hurting you. And if that doesn’t work, let the friendship fade. Distance yourself from the group. Invest less energy with them. Start focusing on yourself or make new friends.
I wish I could continue writing because I have a lot to say (emphasis on a lot) but I wouldn’t want to bore you by making this post really long. If you find yourself in any kind of friendship or friends group where they don’t care about you? or you can relate to any sign I mentioned above, please prioritize your happiness and mental health and stand up for yourself.
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